For anyone who has ever been in hard situation, been in love, been in a relationship, or even sent flirty text messages over AIM (you know who you are, ponyluvr96), we’ve all been told advice in some form that we all had the same reaction to: 

That is complete and utter crap.

And this doesn’t necessarily pertain to only romantic situations. These could be any situations that simply can’t be dealt with overnight. It could be the loss of a relationship, a loss of a friendship, questions about your career path or college choice, or simply just wondering if this is all there is. There are some things in life that are just meant to be figured out on our own and not with the wisdom of others. The problem with these things is that we often do not realize you can only solve it yourself until after we’ve gone through every family member, best friend, and Pinterest quote and found the same advice 10 times. You even hear the same crap in movies. For every girl who’s been given false hope by the movie He’s Just Not That Into You when in the end he WAS IN FACT INTO HER, this one is for you.

There are things everyone deals with that no piece of advice could help heal the pain of or figure out. Some people seek advice and are never satisfied, and some are simply tired of people who don’t understand. It’s all the same, we’ve all been there. 

For heartbreak, it’s “There’s plenty of fish in the sea!”

For any girl between 9 and 105, it’s, “He’d be crazy not to like you!”

For uncertainty, it’s “What’s meant to be will always find it’s way!”

For failure and disappointment, it’s “When one door closes, two doors open!”

Well for to the idiot who made up that one, for your information, some doors have locks. And the advice that they don’t give you when you run into a locked door is that sometimes you have to scale a couple balconies and climb through a few windows to get what you want (I’m a college student, I would know). Life isn’t as simple as opening a door, and you can’t open new doors by still using old ways. 

“Trust the wait. Embrace the uncertainty. Enjoy the becoming. When nothing is certain, anything is possible.”

Like me, maybe you’ll find this advice to not be a load of crap. Shout out to Pinterest, you only sometimes disappoint. 

So don’t underestimate the power of taking your own advice. Listen to yourself. And when the balconies are too high, always check for a spare key.

Eat your heart out, Ginnifer Goodwin.